Lately, I have been considering how unique my experience of homebirth is. Perhaps this is because of the photo challenge “What Does a Homebirth Mama Look Like?” from Bring Birth Home and because of writing my own birth story. I had the blessing of an empowered birth. Am I somehow unlike any other woman? Can any type of woman have a homebirth, an empowered birth?
Can a woman over 35 give birth at home? A woman who had a cesarean last time around? A petite woman with a big baby? A large woman with a breech baby? A woman who never heard of prenatal yoga? A woman who never took a birth class? A woman who never went to a doctor?
I believe any woman without serious health problems can have a home birth. I don’t think I am unique or special. If there is one thing I think not every woman has that I had, it is a partner that believed in my ability to birth at home with every fiber of his being. I sometimes have to stop myself from pitying the woman telling me that she would love to birth at home, but her husband isn’t comfortable with the whole thing. Sometimes these women are the picture of perfect health and youth. Why do they doubt themselves? Why do their partners doubt them? Why this fear of women and birth?
Thousands and thousands of women (millions?!) have the ability to birth at home. Why don’t they? ………. Fear.
I refused to make decisions out of fear. I made my decision out of research and statistics, of POSITIVE BIRTH STORIES and of a commitment to the power I possessed in my birth. I believed in my body and my ability to birth.
I BELIEVE EVERY WOMAN IS THE GODDESS, bringer forth of life, powerful beyond measure.
Yesterday, upon hearing that a mama of our acquaintance was in the throes of birth, my husband wrote the following, a beginning of a poem. Yes, I did have something during my homebirth that not every woman has at her birth. I had someone who saw me as what I was in birth, more than my self, beyond self…..
She is the Goddess
Bringing forth life on this Earthly plane
Her cries are the song of creation
Her blood is the water of life
Mother, sister, wife, daughter
I give thanks unto thee