Ideally, absolute trust starts with the process of birth.
Mothers trust their instincts and intuition around eating, exercise, and all around wellness. Mothers trust their bodies to grow a child and trust their hearts to welcome a new spirit to the world. All this means a calming of the mind, silencing of the chatter and the shoulds and the musts: a listening.
Humans are animals like any other, and an animal mother knows and trusts — with their every ounce of her being — in her ability to birth. There is no question. They birth in the silence of trust and follow their instincts. Human mothers are not exceptions to this rule. Even a mother’s kisses are instinctual acts with biological and chemical drive towards optimal health and wellness.
Ideally, a mother’s trust in herself extends beyond her power in birth into motherhood as she learns, simultaneously, to trust her child.
Despite teaching for years, I still find it hard to wrap my head around trust in a child’s ability to self-direct learning. Having a child and watching her learn and grow has made it clear to me:
Humans are learning machines.
Our brain’s are designed for the task. Astra Taylor’s talk “The Unschooled Life” blew out any remaining limitations on my understanding of that truth. I encourage anyone who wants to have more trust in their child’s ability to learn:
Watch any baby or young child try to do something they want to do.
Watch all the way through Astra Taylors “The Unschooled Life” (1:15 min)